Should I learn to say YES!!??

A close friend of mine ‘T’ has advised me to learn how to say YES!! He says “I’m more of a No person and mastered in saying No.”    

    

I don’t think people who are close to me perceive me the same way as I project myself.

I think it would be with everyone... we find ourselves questioning our yeses and nos? We find ourselves saying yes when we mean no and vice versa..!!

Yes is one of the most life-changing words we can speak out in our life.

Yes - It is so; as you say or ask. To give an affirmative reply to something is pretty difficult for a fickle mind like mine.

To me yes is used to express great satisfaction, approval, or happiness. Yet we utter yes when there is none of these too.

Think about the significant moments in life when we say yes. Perhaps to a work, a partnership, a marriage proposal, an idea terrible enough to toil, or a burning desire so hot we’re on fire with passion to choose a path different from the ordinary. The change that follows a yes can be staggering, to say the least.

Yet saying No has got its own benefits…and Of course, we must say No to some things. To so many questions, it’s the only answer. And we must speak it. Saying No is often borne out of self-protection.  After having said Yes too many times, we eventually learn to say No.

But saying yes again after saying no for so long, ah, that’s where the magic lies.  Yes can instill hope within the hopeless.  Yes can provide safe haven to the hopeless.  Yes can stir the inner strength within a moment of weakness.  Yes can bring the goods.  Yes can break a bad convention.

I asked ‘T’ to help me out in making a list of the things to which I should say only yes...he snorted and said, “ get a life…How can I say that for you!!”

But, it’s really obvious, right? No is just the opposite of Yes, hence, whatever value the word Yes has, the same value should be given to the word No.

After mastering saying no to the demands, the requests, the obligations that often seem urgent but rarely are, I’ve begun to take back the feeling (perhaps an illusion?) of control over my time.  And so am waiting for the time to come to say yes again.  And I’ll learn and it should make me feel right.

So, ‘T’ I will make it myself… Here’s a roll of question that I’ve found for myself, before I declare a yes:

What am I saying no to? Often, when we say yes to one thing, we tacitly say no to another. Yes to a startup means no to plentiful leisure time. Yes to trust means no to doubt. I considerably say No when I am less certain with things. I prefer saying No when I feel, saying Yes would make me regret.

What am I saying yes to? Sometimes, we mistakenly say yes to a false notion of a dreamy dream instead of a real reality.  It’s critical to know what I’m signing up for.  Is it real or just some romanticized conception in my head?  If it’s real, them I’m in.

How much don’t I know? Well, the answer to this will always be a lot.  The questions will always be in the foreground as well as in the background, but asking this question prompts me to think whether the I don’t knows bear a considerable weight.  If I’m really compelled to say yes, then the unknown is acceptable.

Why am I saying yes? The easy answer to this, I hope, is because I want to.

Yes.  A vow made true.

Yes.  To life.

Is there any other word that gets the heart beating faster?