life with limits

Everything from a ketchup bottle to the love of your life comes with an expiry date…. and the things that do not, come with a lot of “*conditions apply” like an insurance policy and you will never really understand those conditions but you think, how hard can it be? And once you’ve bought the policy, then the severity of the conditions hits you from the directions you least expect to!

In any kind of relationship, we cannot expect anything unlimited and more importantly, should not give anything unlimited because just like the unlimited resources that earth gives us are being exploited, our unlimited love and care will also be exploited without bounds, and there won’t be any star marks there.

Now that we know there are limits, the next important thing to do is, TEST those limits! how far can you go for that person and also, how far that person can go for u and always alter your limits to the limits of the other person.

There is a limit to the amount of love, care, attention, respect and everything else that you give to a loved one and that limit is the amount that they give you in return. Never give anything extra because the things given without asking do not have any appreciation

It’s a known fact that in a relationship, the power always lies with the person who cares less. I’m not asking you to care less and keep the power. All I’m saying is to care the exact same amount as the other person does and to not give the power to them. Because nearly everybody can stand adversity, but if you want to test a person’s character, give them power. There is not a person in the world who hasn’t abused power. Never ever give even an ounce of power over you to another person.

Draw boundaries, limit yourself…..be self sufficient, always appreciate the love that comes your way, don’t give too much importance to the love that you are expecting from others and love yourself so much that when that expected love is not coming your way…you still have enough love left for yourself….after all love is the elixir that is keeping us all alive.

Random thoughts...

It's surprising how the mind works. At times I don't even realize the kind of stories it creates without my permission and control. The stories are hopeful and shattering at the same time, but they are stories, created when mind is idle, or when it's too occupied to even think or make sense. Still it manages to create them, almost mechanically.

Don't try to find any logic in whatever I have written. It's one of those blabbering moods. I want to talk a lot right now, but I don't know exactly where to start and what to talk about. There is a lot to say and nothing to express. Or maybe it's the other way round.

Love is never logical..Feelings aren't logical..We don't even realize sometimes what someone means to us..You realize the effect that person has on you when a single thought nudge you ... Again and again. Whenever you read it..It's strange, impractical, unreal, almost impossible; still existent.

After the initial excitement, everything seems to lose its charm suddenly. You do something new in your life and you are excited about it for a while. But then after sometime the same thing looks boring to you and you crave for a change.

You meet someone, sparks fly and you conclude you are in love. After being in the rapport for some time you suddenly realize that the association lacks the charm it had initially. The spark is gone and it now becomes a burden for you to carry around. It is said that, "Change is the only thing constant in life", but does this hold true even for relationships? And if it is so, then why do we say Love is forever?

A friend of mine gives a lecture whenever we discuss about our lives. He says, "If we are scared of changing we are scared of living. Change is perhaps the eternal truth of our lives. Everything changes. We change, with age the way we look changes, our tastes change, our thoughts and beliefs change, with various inventions and discoveries the world around us has changes."

He adds, the best part is despite all these changes we smile when we look at them reminiscing about the good old times comparing the new with them mentally.

Then why in relationships when people change we change our feelings towards them. Why don’t we accept their change also with a smile? Why do we conclude they have changed beyond recognition and walk away from them with a feeling of hatred? Why don’t we think for a moment are we still the same??

Blog makeover :)

I love change and I rarely do the same thing over and over.  So a blog makeover was inevitable.

So how’s the new look?